hello evryone.
To those who have met me in person, and are now silenced by awe upon gazing upon this new side of me, i beg you, do not be baffled, it is but me thinking about life and the meaning of things like friendship and family.
Let me move on without anymore digressions to the 1st topic that captured the processing circuits of my mind, FORGIVENESS...
Sometimes I wonder, why should i forgive him/her, after all he/she did such a thing to me, by forgiving him/her, he/she might think I am unaffected by what he/she did and history might repeat itself. Well, when people seek forgiveness, they either mean it, or just seek forgiveness to get over with the anger and resentment and the rough patch in the friendship etc.
However, if they want to get over it, it means they DO cherish your presence, and they want you by their side. Thus, it is good to forgive. It also helps you, for if you DO NOT forgive, the anger and resentment only builds up in you and you may go to school/work angry, or resentful. Also, if you see the person,it may spoil your day and once you reach home you realise your day was an uneventful one and soon you waste more time chanelling your thoughts to anger.
Now I take the liberty of presenting some quotes.
"To err is human. To forgive, Divine"
"In this life. . . we are unable to forget whatever remains unforgiven. So, if we won't let go of some pain - whose time has now past - then who is to blame for the weight of this burden still being carried on our back?"
On forgive and forget
You only forget once you forgive. When you do not forgive, you spend much time thinking about the person involved in the rough patch. This is because your anger causes you to subconsciously create flaws about that person and you start to see the BAD side about the person.
In the epic anthology Star Wars, there was a cycle the author created:
Love, to jealousy,jealousy to anger, anger to hate, hate, to the Dark Side
Well, often, jealousy or envy in a less serious situation, is rather inevitable due to the amout of care you have for another. However, it turns to anger unless you cherish the one you love, or if you lose the person, accept and be happy that he/she whom you lose is happy. Try not to resort to anger, for it can never solve the problem in hand. Unless you put an end to the anger, it will evolve into hate, and unless you stop and control your emotions, the hate can lead you to do terrible things that change you so much that one day you may look in the mirror and ask yourself, "Who is that?"
Lets say you do NOT forgive someone till you age and the memory of his/her pressence drifts away from your mind, and one day it is jolted back when you see his or her name in the orbituaries, or hear that he/she died, you will feel guilt. Guilt not because you did something to him or her, but guilt because you failed to forgive him/her although they came back to you to seek a humble apology. YOU will feel guilt that it was partially your act that never sealed the gap in the friendship, but the sadder part is you would be alone to feel the guilt forever, as the one you failed to forgive, is gone forever more.
It is but with humble words that I tell you, readers, to learn to let the pain and anger go, and let in new emotions, and let him/her share it with you.
Nothing worth doing is completed in our lifetime,Therefore, we are saved by HOPE.
Nothing true or beautiful or good makes complete sense in any immediate context of history;Therefore, we are saved by FAITH.
Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone.Therefore, we are saved by LOVE.
No virtuous act is quite a virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as from our own;Therefore, we are saved by the final form of love which is FORGIVENESS.
